Taking a rest….

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Sometimes, I just want to scream from the rooftops that you have me all wrong…….

I really think YOU THINK I have it all together.

You say things like…

I don’t see how you do it all!

I could never do what you do.

No worries, Jenifer can do it!

But that’s where you’d be wrong. 

I don’t have it all together. Truth is, I often times feel like I am falling apart at the seams.

The extrovert in me has you fooled.  The smile on my face…the need to speak to every person I know out in public….can be so deceiving.

Somedays I just want to be me.

I want to admit that I’m not having a good week.

I want to admit that I’ve made mistakes.

I want you to not assume I have it all together.

I want to be the me with strong opinions that you may not like.

I want to be the mom that is not always the mom of the year.

I want to be able to say that my house is a wreck or that my laundry is piled sky high.

I want to be able to just have a bad freaking day and it be OK to admit it.


So for the record, I don’t have it all together.  In case you were wondering.

And I’m tired of carrying the weight of a person who is expected to.

I’m tired of not being able to share the way the Lord leads me for fear someone will be offended and place the weight of THEIR reaction on my shoulders.

I’m tired of having friends, yet feeling lonely.

I’m tired of dear friends moving away or living so far away that a cup of coffee and conversation is out of the question.

I’m tired of being reduced to an acquaintance instead of a true friend because my heart ACHES to shout for orphans and to make sure that my kids with special needs have every opportunity.

I’m not who I was.

And I’m ok with that. I think.

I’m learning to be.

The last few days, I’ve tried to take a break from the watercolor of social media.

It’s been a good break. I’ve gotten some projects done. I’ve done some reading. I’ve enjoyed my babies. I’ve taken care of some junk that I didn’t want to deal with but I had to.

And, lo and behold, the world has survived without me.

And I’ve realized a few things….

True friends don’t have to be five minutes away in order to positively affect your life.

As friends, we don’t all have to have the same goals and convictions. But if you abhor the things that are important to me, then it might be time for us to bid each other farewell.

I am not solely responsible for the unity of the Christian body. Do I play a part? Sure. But you need to do YOU friend. And let me be me.

The 1,881 friends that I have on social media are not all truly my friends. Many need to go. If you’re just there for the show and not to be a supportive, encouraging friend then I just don’t get why you stay. Pack a bag.

I miss having a voice on my blog. I have been reduced to sound bites on social media and I have more to say. Do others want to read it? Maybe not. Doesn’t change my desire to express it.

I need some boundaries. I’ve worked this week to set up my social media accounts in a  way that works best for ME. I might miss your latest news, picture of your beautiful baby or a funny meme from time to time. You’ll have to forgive me. But boundaries are good. And much needed.

I feel unwelcome. Where? Lots of places. Often times in my town, often times in the body of believers, often times in the world at large. Does it hurt?  Yep. But I feel like it gives me a window. An opportunity to see things as others do….as someone who doesn’t quite fit in. I think God is using this time to open my eyes. To see things through the lens of an outsider. And it is changing me.

I don’t want to do life like I’ve always done it. I don’t want to bend over backwards to make the comfortable feel even more comfortable. I want to use the gifts that God has given me to live life differently. I don’t want you to look at me and assume you know what is in my heart. I want you to get to know me and see that God is changing me. That God is using me. Even when it hurts.  And I want friends that sharpen me….not friends that dull my edge.

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17

If you are one of those friends, trust that I know who you are. I love you for building me up and encouraging me. I love you for being a listening ear and hearing all the things that I’m embarrassed to tell the world. I love that you sharpen me and I hope I sharpen you in return.

Love, Jenifer









Save Time With Facebook Lists


Let me start by saying, I am no expert on this…all new to me….I was just trying to find a way to see more of my actual friends’ posts in my Facebook feed instead of so much junk. Sometimes I only have a few minutes to check out Facebook…I don’t want to see EVERYTHING…I don’t have time….I just want to see posts from friends that I interact with most.

Ok…let’s see if we can walk through this…. first go to your Friends page on your computer. Next to the friend’s name, you’ll see a little pull down box. Click on it and click “add to another list”…in this case I made a “Sample – Mom Friends” group. You can create a list named ANYTHING! Go through your friends and add them to lists. I plan to make one for family as well as work friends.

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Then go to your home screen. Over on the left hand column do you see where it says “Friends” and you see my new sample group? If I hover over the left side of it then it gives me the option to add it to “favorites”.

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Now see it popped up to my favorites on the left hand column?


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So NOW I can log on and click over on the “Sample – mom friends” list or whatever list I want to look at and it will show me ONLY the posts of THOSE people on my page.

See below at the top it says “custom list” and it shows me only the posts from the friends I added to that “Sample – Mom Friends” list? EEEEEEEEKKKKK!!!!! This is AWESOME!!! Now I’m going to make one for FAMILY so I don’t miss any family posts! Then probably close friends, work friends, adoption momma friends that are IN PROCESS so I don’t miss adoption updates….the possibilities are endless!❤❤❤

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If you are on your phone, just click those three little lines, bottom right, and scroll up a bit to see your favorites…see my sample group there?!?!? YAY!! I would just click “Sample – Mom Friends” to see only those friends in my feed.

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When you start to create a post on your page, you can also choose for a particular list of people to be the only ones to see it. So for example, you could make a list of people from your kid’s baseball team. Then post pictures from the game and chose their “list”. then they would be the only ones to see your post.

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Hope all that makes sense! I am just figuring it out myself! Ha! Got a question? Leave a comment and maybe we can figure it out!😉



My Bucket List!


I’ve always wanted to sit down and type up my bucket list.

bucket list: noun – a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime.

So here goes nothing. I think I’ll start small and come back and add to it as things come to mind. My memory is terrible so maybe this will help me remember all the things I want to do. HA!

  1. Take  train to New Orleans, eat beignets at Cafe Du Monde and take an Anne Rice book tour.
  2. Grow a  successful garden.
  3. Travel to Great Britain.
  4. Travel to Scotland and Ireland.
  5. Own a pair of Tieks ballet flats.
  6. Take Ruby Kate to Canada.
  7. Speak ASL fluently.
  8. Get a tattoo of MinLan and John Preston’s Chinese names.
  9. Visit Alaska.
  10. See Frank Lloyd Wright’s “Falling Water” or any of his houses. There’s even one in Alabama….Florence, maybe, I think!
  11. Learn to play chess.
  12. Anonymously fully fund someone’s adoption.
  13. Go on a Down syndrome/adoption world tour and meet my favorite online momma friends.
  14. Visit the Statue of Liberty.
  15. Plant an herb garden.
  16. Volunteer in an orphanage.
  17. Go to the San Diego Zoo.
  18. Host a fondue party.
  19. Write and publish a children’s book.
  20. See the Northern Lights.
  21. Take our whole family to visit China and visit our children’s birthplaces.
  22. Raise chickens.
  23. Start a Gigi’s Playhouse in our area.
  24. Make my own elderberry syrup.
  25. Create a capsule wardrobe.
  26. Learn to knit.
  27. Sit on a jury…hopefully an interesting one.
  28. Own another Anatolian Shepherd.
  29. Make a quilt from all of my adoption t-shirts.
  30. Take some college level graphic design courses.
  31. Visit the Holy Land.
  32. Put shiplap on one wall in my house.
  33. Visit the beaches at Normandy.
  34. Purchase an RV.
  35. Completely gut and remodel our small bathroom ourselves.
  36. Learn to play the piano.
  37. Take a vacation to Disney World with only Bryan.
  38. Organize all of our books by color.
  39. Ride a double decker bus in London.
  40. Take a road trip with Courtney, Kristin and Millie.
  41. Create a fairy garden for my little girls.
  42. Take my children to the Holocaust Memorial Museum.
  43. Read all of C.S. Lewis’ books.
  44. Become an early riser. (But not today)
  45. Buy a salt lamp.
  46. Take a ballroom dancing class with Bryan.
  47. Attend the Kentucky Derby and wear a BIG hat!
  48. See the Grand Canyon.
  49. Host a Chinese New Year celebration at our home.
  50. Play with real life penguins.
  51. Go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal.
  52. Read War and Peace.
  53. Take a trip with my mom and my sister.
  54. Attend the Olympics.
  55. Live in a tiny house.
  56. Visit the White House and meet the President. (Dream big, right?)
  57. Own a succulent.
  58. See Mt. Rushmore.
  59. Flip a house.
  60. Take a calligraphy class.
  61. Have at least ONE entirely handmade Christmas.
  62. Own my old black Dodge Avenger.
  63. Participate in a 5K.
  64. Take a photography class.
  65. Learn how to make THESE COOKIES.
  66. Visit New York City and see a Broadway play.
  67. See the Rockettes perform at Radio City Music Hall.
  68. Visit the Great Wall of China.
  69. Go to an Alabama football game.
  70. Purchase Alabama season tickets.
  71. Have a family portrait made with all of our children.
  72. Learn to make soap.
  73. Take Ellie to Paris.
  74. Sew a piece of clothing for myself to wear.
  75. Take a pottery making class.
  76. Be in the audience of The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon.

I’m sure I’ll think of more to add but this is a great start! Tell what’s on your list!

Happy 4th Birthday Sweet Neely Jane…

Today is June the fourth, the day that God sent our family on the most amazing journey.

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The day that Neely Jane burst into our lives and we have never been the same.

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She was the little girl that I had always prayed for. One sporting an extra chromosome.

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She would break our world wide open…..prepare our hearts for adoption….introduce us to the most AMAZING families…change our lives forever….for the better.

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She is sassy and spunky. She does not take no for an answer. She says she’s daddy’s girl, but secretly we all know she adores her momma. She is bossy….like WAY bossy, and tells everyone what to do.

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She loves books and would look at them for hours.

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She loves her sisters, adores her big brother Ethan and is learning to like John Preston. 😉

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She counterbalances MinLan’s morning grumpiness with the most beautiful smile when she first opens her eyes.

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Everyone loves her….and I mean everyone. She is precious, amazing, beautiful……all the words.

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Neely Jane you are adored far beyond what you will ever know. Happy Birthday our darling girl! You are a blessing!!! God has big plans for you!