I feel like I’ve had lots of conversations lately about balance with friends. Don’t all moms struggle with this? In just about every area…today let’s talk about wellness. As moms, we often put ourselves on the back burner. To be honest, we often don’t just put ourselves on the back burner of the stove top….we aren’t even in the KITCHEN.
We put everyone before ourselves. Especially our kids. We want them to eat healthy, be well, have a good education, have access to every extra curricular they could ever dream of and yet, we make no effort to do something for us.
I’m not talking about a girls’ night out or a mani/pedi. I’m talking about real change. Something for ourselves…something that will change our lives forever.
And why is that? Why don’t we invest in ourselves?
Do we not see the value in living a life of wellness? Do we not see how that will benefit not only us, but our children as well?
I was talking to a friend last night, I mentioned that I feel better than I did ten years ago. Yes, seriously. I eat better, take better care of my body (except for the exercise part….that is about to change!), my skin is clearer, I have really begun to understand how food affects my body.
But here’s the thing….I didn’t change all this stuff at once. I made small changes over the years. I guess it really started when I was pregnant with Ellie. I was worried to death that I would make a choice that would affect her for life. I remember even being worried about the one cup of coffee I was drinking a month…yes, a MONTH. The doctor looked at me like I had lost my mind when I asked about that.
Then, I was holding this precious little life in my hands. Every decision I was going to make would affect her. Such a responsibility.
We had already begun to try and use more natural cleaners. But we were still eating processed food straight out of their over marketed boxes. My poor big boys….I fed them lots of hamburger helper and canned vegetables. Hope they forgive me. I just didn’t know better.
At some point, I picked up cloth diapering and making my own baby food. I felt on top of my momma game. I nursed all four of my biological babies for over a year each and felt like I was earning my crunchy momma status. I was the mom who gave the pediatrician push-back if his suggestions didn’t sound quite crunchy enough for me. I know he loved me for that.
I bought the safest (I believed) baby products on the market. Research carseats brands. Wore my babies in a sling. Tried my best to make sure they had all the best.
Yet, somewhere in all this, I never really took care of me. I fed my kids a healthy lunch and crammed a candy bar in my mouth while hiding out in the kitchen. I gave them healthy drinks and I was chugging soft drinks at every turn. I made sure they went to bed at a reasonable time and yet stayed up into the wee hours myself trying to conquer the world (I still struggle with this one). I read my children Bible stories and talked about Jesus yet put my personal time with the Lord was way down on my priority list.
I was trying to keep all of those plates spinning and yet I was failing my own self miserably.
Four years ago, we started to make some purposeful changes. Bryan and I started to really look more closely at what we were putting into our bodies. We decided that we wanted to live a life of wellness…not a life where we reacted to symptoms. Do we realize that is how many in the world live? We just sit around doing nothing, waiting on something to happen with our bodies and THEN we react. I don’t want to live that life.
We started kicking the chemicals out of our home. That part was easiest, I think. You just shop differently. We replaced our cleaners, supplements, body care products with ones from Young Living. We threw away our candles (yes, all of them)..and we used to MAKE candles for a living. We replaced those candles with a diffuser and oils that come from plants. How much safer can you get than that?
What was hardest for me was the food part. Whole 30 played a huge part in helping us make some much needed changes. I learned how certain foods affected my body. Can I just say that I recommend a Whole 30 set to EVERYONE? You will learn so much about yourself in the process. And I can guarantee you’ll feel amazing afterward. It’s just thirty days. You can do anything for thirty days.
Now, exercise is my next big step. I’m ready to start an exercise program that I can do at home, in my living room with my babies. I knew that at this point, I was not going to get my hinney to gym. Let’s be honest, I’ve been a member before. I lasted about a month and then I started making excuses. I received the gift of this program from another work-at-home rockstar momma who has changed her life too with small changes. Such an inspiration. Will there be before and after pictures? Uhhhhmmmmm, don’t hold your breath. But, I’m ready.
My time with the Lord has been absent on many days. Prayers asking Him for all the things I need, but not the time spent in His Word to hear the answers. None of this matters without Him. So convicted to replace the time I waste with things that have a kingdom impact. I need accountability here more than anywhere. What about you? Do you struggle with this too. Why do we struggle? I have no excuses or eloquent words about this one. I just know I want to know Him more.
But since we are friends here, can I be honest about this whole wellness thing? You can’t get a bottle of lavender oil, put a drop on yourself and expect the world to change. You have to make some real changes. Is it easy? Uhhhmmm, no. But you can do it. You just have to start. I have some friends and we have been talking about oils and supplements for the entire FOUR years that we have been using Young Living products. They will attend every class I teach, ask lots of questions about what oils can help them, but make no real changes. I can’t imagine being where we were as a family four years ago. I don’t want to imagine it. I love that we’ve made changes and I want to see that for you too.
Friend, don’t say you don’t have the time to learn. Make the time. I can help point you in the right direction. I’d be honored to help you. Give me a holler. No judgment from me, promise. I just want to see you healthy and well. And your family too.
Ask me next time you see me how I’m doing on going to bed earlier and my walk with the Lord. I’m struggling with these. Ask me and stand waiting until I answer. We need each other friend.